Interview With Author Mya Fort-Marshall

 

1. What inspired you to write this book?  

I’ve always been more comfortable writing my feelings. It’s how I make sense of things. In that way, writing has always been less about art for me and more about medicine. I didn’t really set out to write a book. I was writing my way through my life. Through motherhood, marriage, divorce, cancer, grief, work, love, and all the versions of myself I had become along the way. At some point, I realized I had spent a lot of time being something for everyone else and hadn’t spent nearly enough time asking who I was underneath all of that. The book grew out of that question. It became a way of following the breadcrumbs back to myself, and eventually I realized those breadcrumbs might help someone else find their way back, too.  

2. What exactly is it about, and who is it written for?  

This is always the question where I want to say, “How much time do you have?” It’s not quite memoir. It’s definitely not self-help. There is no five-step plan, no vision board exercise, and I make absolutely no promise that you’ll be transformed by page 127.  It’s a collection of stories and reflections about the people and experiences that make us who we are. Family. Motherhood. Marriage. Divorce. Cancer. Friendship. Work. Grief. Sex. Food. Music. Faith. Reinvention. And the stories we inherit about who we’re supposed to be. I wrote it particularly for people who have spent a lot of their lives being something for somebody else. Somebody’s mother. Wife. Partner. Daughter. Boss. Caregiver. Fixer. Strong friend. Whatever your version of “everything” is. The dedication probably says it best: this book is for anyone who needs proof that the messy, beautiful middle is still holy ground.   

3. What do you hope readers will get out of reading your book?  

Recognition. Not transformation. I don’t think a book can hand you a brand-new life in 200 pages, and I’m suspicious of anybody promising one. What I hope happens is that somewhere in one of my stories, readers recognize something of themselves. Maybe it’s in my relationship with my mother. Maybe it’s motherhood. Maybe it’s shrinking yourself inside a relationship or a career. Maybe it’s grief. Maybe it’s realizing you’ve spent so much time performing “fine” that you’ve forgotten to ask whether you actually are. The book says, “You don’t have to fix yourself. Just stay with yourself.” I think that’s what I want readers to take away. Maybe you aren’t a problem waiting to be solved. Maybe there are breadcrumbs all over your life reminding you who you are.  Follow those.  

4. How did you decide on your book’s title and cover design?  

Before You Were Everything came from the central question of the book: Who were you before you became everything everybody needed you to be? Before the titles. Before the responsibilities. Before you became somebody’s mother, wife, employee, caretaker, problem solver, whatever your version of “everything” is. The book is really about following those breadcrumbs back to yourself. And the cover is a picture of my mom.  

That choice felt inevitable once we saw it. So much of this book begins with the women who raised me, and my mother is woven through nearly every version of who I became. She represents love, contradiction, freedom, strength, spirituality, creativity, and a kind of unapologetic womanhood that shaped me long before I understood what I was watching. There’s also something I love about the fact that the book is called Before You Were Everything, but the woman on the cover is one of the first people who was everything to me. It makes the cover feel less like an illustration and more like part of the story.  

5. What advice or words of wisdom do you have for fellow writers, other than run!?  

Well…running remains a perfectly reasonable option. But if you’re staying, stop trying to sound like a writer. That was probably the most important thing for me. The best parts of this book happened when I stopped performing “author” and started telling the story the way I would tell it sitting across from somebody I love. Write the weird sentence. Leave the joke in. Say the thing you’re afraid is too specific. Specificity is usually where people find themselves in your work. And don’t polish all the fingerprints off your writing. Perfect prose can be beautiful. But sometimes the sentence with a little dirt under its nails is the one somebody remembers.  

6. What trends in the book world do you see, and where do you think the book publishing industry is heading?  

I am far too new to publishing to pretend I have some grand prediction about where the industry is headed. Ask me again after I’ve sold a few million copies and developed completely unjustified confidence. But as a reader and now an author, I do think people are hungry for voice. We have more content than we’ve ever had. AI can produce technically competent words in seconds. Social media gives us an endless supply of perfectly packaged thoughts. So, I think what becomes more valuable, not less, is the thing that is difficult to manufacture: perspective. I think readers want to feel like there’s an actual human being on the other side of the page. Somebody specific. Somebody with a point of view. Somebody who isn’t sanding down every edge trying to appeal to everybody. I don’t know exactly where publishing goes next. But I think unmistakably human work is going to matter.  

7. Were there experiences in your personal life or career that came in handy when writing this book?  

Basically, all of them. I have apparently been conducting research for this book my entire life without knowing it. My family gave me storytelling. The women who raised me taught me how humor and truth can occupy the same sentence. Motherhood taught me that love can completely rearrange your identity. Marriage and divorce taught me that loving someone and remaining yourself are two different skills. Cancer changed my relationship with my body and with time. Grief taught me that sometimes grief doesn’t collapse on the floor. Sometimes it answers emails and goes to work. And my career absolutely shaped the book. I’m analytical by nature. I spend my professional life looking for patterns, asking why something happened, separating signal from noise, and trying to understand what a set of facts is actually telling us. Apparently, I do the same thing with my life. The difference is that people are much messier than spreadsheets. Unfortunately.  

8. How would you describe your writing style? Which writers or books is your writing similar to?  

Conversational, reflective, irreverent, and probably a little nosy. I write the way I think, which means I can move from something deeply serious to something completely inappropriate without much warning. That’s also how my family tells stories. Humor was never separate from grief or hardship in my house. It was how we metabolized it. I grew up reading everything. My mother’s bookshelf introduced me to writers like Maya Angelou, Daniel Quinn, and John Kennedy Toole, among many others.  But I’m hesitant to say my writing is “like” another writer’s because voice is so personal.  

If I had to describe the experience rather than compare it, I’d say the book reads like sitting at the kitchen table with a friend who has poured you something, fed you something, told you entirely too much of her business, made you laugh at something you probably shouldn’t have laughed at, and then somewhere in the conversation said something that made you go quiet. That’s what I was going for. Story that sticks to your ribs.  

9. What challenges did you overcome in the writing of this book?  

The hardest part wasn’t telling the painful stories. It was telling them without turning the people in them into villains. Real life is inconveniently nuanced. People can love you and hurt you. They can disappoint you and still have given you something beautiful. You can leave a marriage without deciding the entire marriage was a mistake. You can acknowledge what a parent didn’t give you without erasing everything they did. One of the ideas I kept coming back to was that you don’t have to villainize someone in order to heal. That required me to be honest about other people, but it required even more honesty about myself. Memory is a storyteller too. It edits. It protects. It exaggerates. It fills gaps. So, the challenge was finding emotional truth without pretending mine was the only truth. Also, writing about your family when they are alive, literate, and know your phone number is an extreme sport.  

10. If people can buy or read one book this week or month, why should it be yours?  

Because I am trying to sell books. I mean…we can pretend that’s not part of the answer, but that would be a weird way to end an interview about my book. But beyond that, I think you should read Before You Were Everything if you’ve ever looked at a life that is objectively full and wondered why some part of you still feels missing. If you’ve been successful and tired. Loved and lonely. Grateful and grieving. A wonderful mother and still wanted something that belonged only to you. If you’ve ever outgrown a version of yourself, you once worked very hard to become, this book might feel familiar. It won’t tell you how to fix your life. It might sit beside you while you listen to it. And if somewhere in my ridiculous, messy, funny, occasionally heartbreaking stories you see even a sliver of yourself, then the book did exactly what I wrote it to do. In the epilogue, I call it a reflection in the purest sense. If the book is a mirror, I hope you like what you see. And if not, there are recipes in the back. So, you still get snacks.  

 

About The Author: Mya Fort-Marshall is a writer, storyteller, and cultural curator whose work explores the intersections of identity, heritage, and the transformative power of everyday moments. "Before You Were Everything" is her debut book—a deeply personal yet universally resonant exploration of love, loss, legacy, and the beautiful chaos of becoming who we're meant to be. When she's not writing, Mya can be found experimenting with family recipes, curating playlists that tell stories, and capturing moments through her camera lens. For more information, please see:    https://beforeyouwereeverything.com.

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