Tuesday, January 6, 2026

Are You A House Painter -- Or An Artist?

 

 

What are you?

Don’t tell me a human or an animal or a woman. Or a lawyer or dad or Catholic. Or pretty, smart, wealthy, middle-aged, or white.

You may be any one or more of these things — at least two of them — but none of them truly define who you are.

If you are reading this, it is because you participate in the act of writing. So, you are either a writer by craft or by obligation. Is it a passion and pleasure for you, or a chore, job, and a burden?

Are you an artist or a house painter? Do you create vs paint by the numbers? Is writing a skilled craft or just an assignment for you?
Do you enjoy the writing journey or only the result?

There is a phrase that some male escorts and porn actors use: Gay for pay. This means they may have sex with a guy for money but it means nothing to them and it is not who they are or what makes them happy.

They use their natural gifts and trained skills — tight butt, big penis, muscle tone — to merely do a job. They don’t get the joy or feeling of love that they would get if they slept with a woman they desired. They may be talented or desired by other men, but for them ,they are just painting your room, not creating the Sistine Chapel.

Similarly, I pose the question to you: What — or who — are you!

How serious are you about your writing? Is it your passion and purpose? Do you define yourself by your writings?

If you are a house painter, stop reading.

You are merely earning a living and not living up to your full creative potential. I don’t have anything you offer you other than wishing you well on your journey to financially prosper. But to those who identify as authors and writers, continue.

Now that it is clear to you who and what you are, the next question is: How do you become that which you believe yourself to be?

In other words, it is not enough to just declare who you think you are. I want to know what exact steps you will follow to live out that designated title, to in fact truly become the person you aspire to be.

Let me cut to the chase, so there is no mystery or confusion here. People can make everything so very complicated but this is embarrassingly simple and blindingly clear.

You are a writer. Writers write.

So, step one: write. Do it often and do it well.

Next, writers re-write or get editing help. Do it.

Third, writers publish their works, otherwise it is merely an act of mental masturbation, a private act that only you can experience.

Fourth, if you go through the effort of writing, editing, and publishing, which also involved reading, researching, analyzing, daydreaming, and learning about the art of writing, why would you go through all of that and not seek to find readers for your book? Folks, I am talking about the M word.

Marketing.

Get off your couch, step out of your comfort zone, and make a true commitment of resources in time, money, and mindshare to make your dream come true and to actually live out who you are becoming: A Writer.

A writer does not just think about writing. He or she practices the very beautiful act of writing with plenty of regularity.

And a successful writer does not publish his or her work with the intention of having a book go unread. No, you go out there and market that book with the same drive and gusto that fueled its very creation.

I don’t want to hear your reasons, obstacles, excuses, or challenges. No whining. Take ownership of your self-defined life and become who you say you are. To be a writer means you are also a marketer.

Otherwise, you are merely a house painter.

 

Do You Need Book Marketing Help?

Brian Feinblum can be reached at brianfeinblum@gmail.com  He is available to help authors like you to promote your story, sell your book, and grow your brand. He has over 30 years of experience in successfully helping thousands of authors in all genres. Let him be your advocate, teacher, and motivator! 

 

About Brian Feinblum

This award-winning blog has generated over 5,400,000 page views. With 5,500+ posts over the past 14 years, it was named one of the best book marketing blogs  by BookBaby  http://blog.bookbaby.com/2013/09/the-best-book-marketing-blogs  and recognized by Feedspot in 2021 and 2018 as one of the top book marketing blogs. It was also named by www.WinningWriters.com as a "best resource.”  Copyright 2026.

 

For the past three decades, Brian Feinblum has helped thousands of authors. He formed his own book publicity firm in 2020. Prior to that, for 21 years as the head of marketing for the nation’s largest book publicity firm, and as the director of publicity at two independent presses, Brian has worked with many first-time, self-published, authors of all genres, right along with best-selling authors and celebrities such as: Dr. Ruth, Mark Victor Hansen, Joseph Finder, Katherine Spurway, Neil Rackham, Harvey Mackay, Ken Blanchard, Stephen Covey, Warren Adler, Cindy Adams, Todd Duncan, Susan RoAne, John C. Maxwell, Jeff Foxworthy, Seth Godin, and Henry Winkler.

 

His writings are often featured in The Writer and IBPA’s The Independent (https://pubspot.ibpa-online.org/article/whats-needed-to-promote-a-book-successfully). He was recently interviewed by the IBPA: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F0BhO9m8jbs

 

He hosted a panel on book publicity for Book Expo America several years ago, and has spoken at ASJA, BookCAMP, Independent Book Publishers Association Sarah Lawrence College, Nonfiction Writers Association, Cape Cod Writers Association, Willamette (Portland) Writers Association, APEX, Morgan James Publishing, and Connecticut Authors and Publishers Association. He served as a judge for the 2024 IBPA Book Awards.

 

His letters-to-the-editor have been published in The Wall Street Journal, USA Today, New York Post, NY Daily News, Newsday, The Journal News (Westchester) and The Washington Post. His first published book was The Florida Homeowner, Condo, & Co-Op Association Handbook.  It was featured in The Sun Sentinel and Miami Herald.

 

Born and raised in Brooklyn, he now resides in Westchester with his wife, two kids, and Ferris, a black lab rescue dog, and El Chapo, a pug rescue dog.

 

You can connect with him at: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brianfeinblum/ or https://www.facebook.com/brian.feinblum

 

 

Monday, January 5, 2026

Interview With Author Patricia Gordon Stevens

 



1. What inspired you to write this book?  

I drew from decades of listening to women’s stories and from one of my own destructive, negative, and fragile marriages.

This is a work of fiction loosely based on my life. 'Madness In Memphis' is not a book about me. It is a book for all women who have experienced and are still experiencing violence in intimate relationships. I was married to a man diagnosed with bipolar and a severe personality disorder. My desire to understand these behaviors led me to pursue a master’s in counseling.

The statistics drove me to write. In Australia, the United States, and the United Kingdom, one in four women lives in a domestic violence situation. I believe a nonfiction book filled with statistics and comprehensive data might be ignored. Fiction, however, forces the reader to live through the fear. It helps you understand why a woman cannot simply "just leave" in many instances.


2. What exactly is it about — and who is it written for?

Morgan Sage is a divorced woman, mother of two to Ollie and Opal, and Dixie, their four-legged, furry family member, and a stockbroker by trade.  She is savvy, bright, successful, sensitive, and loves her kids more than anything on Earth. She thought bringing a man, a father figure into the fold of the family, was just what they each needed to be whole again. She had no idea the man she delivered to her children would be a monster. Against all odds, she got away, supported by the most amazing people woven into her life. Her mother, her best mate, her outstanding work colleague, and her new compassionate and wise attorney see only the best in this woman as they witness Morgan's fierce struggle to escape her predator. The monster is not about to let Morgan go. Those people closest to her are shocked and horrified by the relentless terror the monster concocts. It is the day-to-day battles that prove to be harrowing. Everyone needs a safe place to next - getting there is the unknown.

 

The book is dedicated to the women fleeing domestic violence, thinking about fleeing, making plans to flee, or shutting down because they do not know were to start. There is help. Make a plan. Gather your circle of support together. If you don't have a tribe, visit your closest community help center. Start there.

 

 

3. What do you hope readers will get out of reading your book?

Has tv or the movies made us believe that victims are under-educated, non-educated, poor, or working only in entry-level jobs? Nothing could be further from the truth. Domestic violence does not discriminate. If a man (or anyone) has their sights set on control and they have determined their ‘prey’ the individual can be from all walks of life.  Profession does not matter, religion or culture, race or color of skin, financially fluid or poor as a church mouse, if a male is determined to control the female in his life, he will go to great lengths to do so. If a woman is in a higher position, earning more money, powerful in her profession, this ‘can’ make the deal sweeter - the package more attractive.  He may have to work harder to earn her trust but that would only make his ultimate goal loftier.  I am talking in broad strokes here. A man who must control will find ways to do it and if his demands are not met or he feels threatened by the thought of losing the person in whom he has invested time and energy, ‘he’ will begin to feel out of control and lash out, beginning with threats and moving on to violence. 

 


4. How did you decide on your book’s title and cover design?

Well, that's an easy question!  I was born and raised in Memphis, Tennessee and I have experience living in a marriage with a husband who was diagnosed with serious mental health issues.  

I wanted the book to have a dark cover to depict its dark subject matter; the deep black and blue on the cover could be symbolism for Morgan's bruised body or it could be for the deep, dark waters of The Mississippi River around midnight. 

5. What advice or words of wisdom do you have for fellow writers –
other than run!?

Do I understand your question correctly?  You are asking for words of wisdom from writers - not from women fleeing domestic violence, right?  Apologies.  I did have a little chuckle because there is nothing more daunting than entering the world of publishing.  To All Writers, I say this to you. Writing is a gift.  Writing is therapeutic. Please continue to write.  Are you writing only to please others?  Yes, we are excited to see our story come together and, perhaps, find its way to a publisher but IF YOU are pleased with what you have written - can you not relish in that joy for a moment?  IF you are writing because you are determined to be the next #1 New York Times' Best Seller - good for you.  I applaud your zeal and determination.  Remember though - there are millions of good books enjoyed by readers which never make it to the NYT's list.  That's okay.  I have readers emailing me, sending text messages, FB messages and this story is resonating with many.  I find satisfaction in that.  You will feel naked, exposed, and vulnerable because putting your book out there is like placing yourself on a platter for people to immediately judge or put under the microscope. Hang On for the Ride. Do not doubt yourself but DO ask 'why' do you want to write 'this' story.  What makes 'this' story so important to you?  I could not stop writing until my story 'left my body' and landed on the pages; I simply could not stop. I want to relive that exact feeling again and again. 


6. What trends in the book world do you see -- and where do you think
the book publishing industry is heading?

The book publishing industry has already transformed before our eyes. Those people slapping together books or self-help manuals for profit using AI will inundate the market and readers will tire of repetition and garbage. And, doesn't everyone on the planet think they can write a children's book?  Well, no, they cannot; read some of them floating around now - sad. Having typed this, I think publishers know - they are acutely aware - there are some tremendous self-published books and traditional publishers are not fortune tellers.  Traditional publishers are having a difficult time deciding which book by their most-treasured author will land them the most money.  They Do Not Know.  One outstanding book by a beloved author does not necessarily mean a second will follow. I think the self-publishing trend is here to stay.  I chose Hembury Books, a hybrid publisher, because there was no way I was going on this crazy ride alone. 


I distinctly remember when I was involved with a 'literary speed dating' experience - being provided mere minutes to sit on screen in front of selected publishers and a women representing Harper Collins in Australia perked up and said 'I'm most interested in this story.'  Her next question was, 'Where does the story take place?' I replied, 'Memphis, Tennessee.'  She retorted, 'Well, too bad.'  I soon learned this representative only wanted Australian-based stories.  Wrong and, unfortunately, incorrect thinking in my most humble opinion. Firstly, domestic violence is a societal problem in the wealthiest countries in the world, some being Australia, the United States, and the United Kingdom...why wouldn't any publisher be interested in a story that shared what women escaping abuse experience?  WHY?  So, what if it's dark - the more we know about it the more we can do to banish violence whether the book is written as fiction or non-fiction.  Plus, there is not a reader I know from my professional organizations to private friendships living in Australia who does not enjoy books where stories are told throughout the world.  Australian readers enjoy a good story no matter its country - its setting, at least, this is what I hear from my many friends who enjoy a good book. Do American readers only want to read books set in America?  I genuinely hope not. 


7. Were there experiences in your personal life or career that came in handy when writing this book?  

My marriage to a man diagnosed with a severe personality disorder and bi-polar certainly created a world I had never experienced or been exposed to before in my life. Living under these extreme circumstances is not something one easily forgets and having the privilege to sit before other women who described their 'daily dose of abuse' almost as normally as preparing family meals - made me stop. I am in awe and have deep respect for the women who found the strength and courage to leave and would not allow their children to witness cruel and foul behaviors any longer.  There are colleagues of mine who believe domestic violence does not end - until someone dies - either the perpetrator or the victim.  This 'thinking' cannot be acceptable - ever. 

8. How would you describe your writing style? Which writers or books is
your writing similar to?

My writing style is not literary fiction; at least, not for 'Madness In Memphis' because this book is filled with action and dialogue and moves along very quickly. If you are looking for that one perfectly crafted sentence where a precious word has been chosen from the Oxford or Cambridge Dictionary to be slipped into the most well-suited position that, once read, makes your heart soar, well, then, this book is not for you.  If you want grit, punch, and a bit of realism and a fast paced story that will have you keen to know what happens next, please, grab a copy. 

 

Books similar to 'Madness In Memphis' are: 

The Mother by Jane Caro

You Never Know by Connie Briscoe

The Family Doctor by Debra Oswald


9. What challenges did you overcome in the writing of this book?

The challenge of putting myself 'out there' into the world. It is a daunting process which involves sleepless nights and a million thoughts of doubt.  All okay. I feel like a million dollars for completing my manuscript and seeing it come to life as a book. I want to do it again.  Will all of the self-doubt disappear?  I certainly doubt it and I am a counsellor.  Overcoming fear and believing in yourself is a beautiful experience. 

10. If people can buy or read one book this week or month, why should it
be yours? 

It should be 'Madness In Memphis' so they can get a good grip - a good feel - of what too many females in our world are experiencing - today.  Domestic violence is an important social discourse. The best part of the book is the undercurrent of care and concern, connection and love running throughout. You will feel it. I am most certain. 

 

About The Author: Born in Memphis, Tennessee, I am half American and proudly half-Australian living a rich and diverse life in Kapunda, South Australia. A former husband (now deceased) was diagnosed with a severe personality disorder.  I know what it is like to live post trauma and to experience the horror of a stalker, therefore, I set out to understand how environments and genetics impact our behaviour by studying psychological science and sociology. In between creating stories, as a recent, mature graduate of a Master of Counselling, I enjoy helping others on their path towards self-discovery through therapy.  Hope is the ingredient that sees us all through.  I certainly feel well-equipped to write this story and others surrounding intricate mental health issues and the ‘beauty and complexities’ of managing life itself. Please see: www.patriciagordonstevens.com   

 

Do You Need Book Marketing Help?

Brian Feinblum can be reached at brianfeinblum@gmail.com  He is available to help authors like you to promote your story, sell your book, and grow your brand. He has over 30 years of experience in successfully helping thousands of authors in all genres. Let him be your advocate, teacher, and motivator! 

 

About Brian Feinblum

This award-winning blog has generated over 5,400,000 page views. With 5,500+ posts over the past 14 years, it was named one of the best book marketing blogs  by BookBaby  http://blog.bookbaby.com/2013/09/the-best-book-marketing-blogs  and recognized by Feedspot in 2021 and 2018 as one of the top book marketing blogs. It was also named by www.WinningWriters.com as a "best resource.”  Copyright 2026.

 

For the past three decades, Brian Feinblum has helped thousands of authors. He formed his own book publicity firm in 2020. Prior to that, for 21 years as the head of marketing for the nation’s largest book publicity firm, and as the director of publicity at two independent presses, Brian has worked with many first-time, self-published, authors of all genres, right along with best-selling authors and celebrities such as: Dr. Ruth, Mark Victor Hansen, Joseph Finder, Katherine Spurway, Neil Rackham, Harvey Mackay, Ken Blanchard, Stephen Covey, Warren Adler, Cindy Adams, Todd Duncan, Susan RoAne, John C. Maxwell, Jeff Foxworthy, Seth Godin, and Henry Winkler.

 

His writings are often featured in The Writer and IBPA’s The Independent (https://pubspot.ibpa-online.org/article/whats-needed-to-promote-a-book-successfully). He was recently interviewed by the IBPA: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F0BhO9m8jbs

 

He hosted a panel on book publicity for Book Expo America several years ago, and has spoken at ASJA, BookCAMP, Independent Book Publishers Association Sarah Lawrence College, Nonfiction Writers Association, Cape Cod Writers Association, Willamette (Portland) Writers Association, APEX, Morgan James Publishing, and Connecticut Authors and Publishers Association. He served as a judge for the 2024 IBPA Book Awards.

 

His letters-to-the-editor have been published in The Wall Street Journal, USA Today, New York Post, NY Daily News, Newsday, The Journal News (Westchester) and The Washington Post. His first published book was The Florida Homeowner, Condo, & Co-Op Association Handbook.  It was featured in The Sun Sentinel and Miami Herald.

 

Born and raised in Brooklyn, he now resides in Westchester with his wife, two kids, and Ferris, a black lab rescue dog, and El Chapo, a pug rescue dog.

 

You can connect with him at: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brianfeinblum/ or https://www.facebook.com/brian.feinblum

 

 

Interview With Author Dr. Olapeju Simoyan


 

1. What inspired you to write this book? In 2023, I released Peju Sings! The Little Drummer Boy and Other Christmas Favorites - an album of 13 Christmas carols.  That December, I attended an event where we were given handouts that had the story behind "O Holy Night," and found the story fascinating. I was immediately inspired to research the stories behind the other songs on my album and write a book, so I did and published it in 2024. A second edition was released in October 2025.    

2. What exactly is it about — and who is it written for? The book tells the stories behind 13 Christmas songs and includes information about the composers, lyricists and translators. The stories are told in an easy-to-read format without too much detail. Interestingly, I found out that some aspects of the story of "O Holy Night" that are commonly repeated as facts have either been debunked or are not verifiable.  There are also aspects of the "Silent Night" story that have been questioned. I discuss some of these in the book. The book is for anyone who likes Christmas music and who is interested in how these songs originated and the people who created them.  


3. What do you hope readers will get out of reading your book? 
I hope people will be inspired by these stories. The songs are inspirational in and of themselves, but I believe that learning about the lives of the people behind them can help us appreciate them even more. 


4. How did you decide on your book’s title and cover design? 
The title was taken from " The Little Drummer Boy." I like the message of that song. There's much more to life than how much money we have. We all have something to give - and our best is good enough. I believe our talents and resources are gifts from God and we can use them to bless others and make the world a better place. The cover design is based on the cover picture of the CD, with the addition of a few ornaments and the Drummer Boy - depicted by a rag doll which I created. 


5. What advice or words of wisdom do you have for fellow writers – other than run!? 
I would say run towards your dreams! It’s relatively easy to self-publish these days. If you really want to write, just start. Work with a coach if you can for the first book, and after that you should be able to do it on your own. There are lots of resources on YouTube that are very helpful and you can learn so much about writing and self-publishing. There are also several support groups for independent writers on Facebook. I have learned so much since I started self- publishing and I look forward to publishing more books.


6. What trends in the book world do you see -- and where do you think the book publishing industry is heading? 
I think more people are getting into self- publishing and that's a good thing. The ability to self-publish means people don't have to spend years trying to get one book published. I have so many books inside of me and I can't afford to spend several years waiting for each one to come to life, so it's nice to be able to set my own timelines. I'm sure there are many other authors who are like me in this respect. 


7. Were there experiences in your personal life or career that came in handy when writing this book? 
As a physician who is interested in the connections between medicine and music (and the arts in general), I had the opportunity to attend the International Association of Music and Medicine's conference in Berlin, Germany last year (2024). I decided to make a brief visit to the Silent Night Museum and Chapel near Salzburg in Austria on my way to the conference. Even though the book was almost ready for publication by then, I was able to include some pictures that I took in the book.  

As an addiction medicine physician, during this past Christmas season, I led group sessions with patients where I told some of the stories in the book and led them in singing carols. 

As I told the stories, I highlighted some of the difficulties that the people in the stories experienced, and how those challenges didn't hold them back. An example is John Sullivan Dwight, the translator of " O Holy Night," who suffered from panic attacks and had to step down from being a minister as a result. He ended up becoming a music critic and started a music journal. It was while doing research for his journal that he found the poem that he translated into " O Holy Night." This is just one of several examples in the book. Jose Feliciano, the composer of Feliz Navidad, was born blind, something I wasn't aware of prior to writing the book. 


8. How would you describe your writing style? Which writers or books is
your writing similar to? 
 I really enjoy storytelling and try to write in a way that appeals to a wide audience. I like to think that my approach is unique and I see my work as building bridges, working at the intersections of art and faith and science and faith. 


9. What challenges did you overcome in the writing of this book? 
Writing the book was enjoyable. Unfortunately, publishing it was not! Because I self-publish and had only a few months to get it published on time for the holidays, the publishing process was challenging and frustrating at times.  It all worked out in the end, thank God. The first edition was published in November 2024, just before Thanksgiving. A second edition of the book was just released in October this year (2025). You may wonder why a second edition already?  Well, this one has a foreword written by Dr Mary Rorro, the Chair of the Music and Medicine Committee of the American Medical Women’s Association (AMWA), of which I am a member. I had also written an essay about Christmas caroling and making up some of the lyrics to parts of songs and decided to include it in a postscript.    


10. If people can buy or read one book this week or month, why should it be yours? 
Christmas may be over for this year, but the good news is that it comes every year, so the material in the book is "evergreen!" It is easy to read, and the stories can inspire readers, including those who don't celebrate Christmas, all year - round. Also, the ability to share the story behind a song during a future caroling session will add a special touch and make the experience extra meaningful.   

About The Author: Dr. Olapeju Simoyan (a.k.a. The Doctor Writer and The Doctor Singer) is an addiction medicine physician, professor and longtime advocate for the intersection of art and science. She helped establish medical  humanities programs at Geisinger Commonwealth School of Medicine and Reading Hospital, and has served as editor of several literary journals. She combines her writing and photography in The Amazing World of Butterflies and Giraffes are Amazing. Her other books include the devotional Living Foolproof! Wisdom for Daily Living and the academic memoir Girls Become Doctors and Much More. Along with Dr. William Santoro, she co-authored Navigating the Methadone Maze: A Guide for Patients and Professionals. Author website: https://thedoctorwriter.com/

 

 

Do You Need Book Marketing Help?

Brian Feinblum can be reached at brianfeinblum@gmail.com  He is available to help authors like you to promote your story, sell your book, and grow your brand. He has over 30 years of experience in successfully helping thousands of authors in all genres. Let him be your advocate, teacher, and motivator! 

 

About Brian Feinblum

This award-winning blog has generated over 5,400,000 page views. With 5,500+ posts over the past 14 years, it was named one of the best book marketing blogs  by BookBaby  http://blog.bookbaby.com/2013/09/the-best-book-marketing-blogs  and recognized by Feedspot in 2021 and 2018 as one of the top book marketing blogs. It was also named by www.WinningWriters.com as a "best resource.”  Copyright 2026.

 

For the past three decades, Brian Feinblum has helped thousands of authors. He formed his own book publicity firm in 2020. Prior to that, for 21 years as the head of marketing for the nation’s largest book publicity firm, and as the director of publicity at two independent presses, Brian has worked with many first-time, self-published, authors of all genres, right along with best-selling authors and celebrities such as: Dr. Ruth, Mark Victor Hansen, Joseph Finder, Katherine Spurway, Neil Rackham, Harvey Mackay, Ken Blanchard, Stephen Covey, Warren Adler, Cindy Adams, Todd Duncan, Susan RoAne, John C. Maxwell, Jeff Foxworthy, Seth Godin, and Henry Winkler.

 

His writings are often featured in The Writer and IBPA’s The Independent (https://pubspot.ibpa-online.org/article/whats-needed-to-promote-a-book-successfully). He was recently interviewed by the IBPA: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F0BhO9m8jbs

 

He hosted a panel on book publicity for Book Expo America several years ago, and has spoken at ASJA, BookCAMP, Independent Book Publishers Association Sarah Lawrence College, Nonfiction Writers Association, Cape Cod Writers Association, Willamette (Portland) Writers Association, APEX, Morgan James Publishing, and Connecticut Authors and Publishers Association. He served as a judge for the 2024 IBPA Book Awards.

 

His letters-to-the-editor have been published in The Wall Street Journal, USA Today, New York Post, NY Daily News, Newsday, The Journal News (Westchester) and The Washington Post. His first published book was The Florida Homeowner, Condo, & Co-Op Association Handbook.  It was featured in The Sun Sentinel and Miami Herald.

 

Born and raised in Brooklyn, he now resides in Westchester with his wife, two kids, and Ferris, a black lab rescue dog, and El Chapo, a pug rescue dog.

 

You can connect with him at: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brianfeinblum/ or https://www.facebook.com/brian.feinblum