1.
What
inspired you to write this book?
The book started as an open-ended sequel to my first novel, WHEN
WE WERE ALL STILL ALIVE, in which the protagonist loses his wife to an
accident. TELL ME AGAIN was going to be about the further process of his
recovering from grief, until I witnessed what became the opening scene in the
book: an old woman needs help pumping gas, and Conrad helps her, which leads to
a conversation he never expected about his late wife, and a strong through-line
that propelled the narrative.
I was almost finished with the first draft when my son-in-law, who
is himself adopted and as an adult began an ultimately successful effort to
identify and connect with his biological parents, directed me to Ann Fessler's
"The Girls Who Went Away," a wrenching personal history of women who,
through shame or coercion, gave up their babies to adoption in the years before
Roe v. Wade. This amazing book sharpened my empathy for the teenage pregnancy
plight of the young Sarah, who would become Conrad's wife but whose teenage
trauma she never revealed to him.
2.
What
exactly is it about and who is it written for?
It’s about a man’s recovery from grief with the help of friends, lovers, family, and the daughter-in-law he never knew existed. It’s for anyone who ever lost a loved one, either through death, divorce, distance, or the simple passage of time.
3.
What
do you hope readers will get out of reading your book?
Four things:
-A shared sense of resentment at the subtle forms of ageism that
pervade society and constrain the lives of otherwise smart and able people.
-That the paths out of grief are many, often unexpected, but never
traveled alone.
-That the things we think we know about those closest to us may be
wrong, or woefully incomplete. So never assume you know the whole story.
-A desire to visit Paris.
4.
How
did you decide on your book’s title and cover design?
The title went through many changes. Originally, it was “Reason to
Believe,” which I thought perfectly captured the main character’s quest to find
out if a shocking story about his late wife was true. But it’s just too common
a phrase, both in song and in too many book titles, and implied a religious element
that’s not part of the story, so I came up with a dozen or so alternatives,
including “Past Believing,” “Useful Life,” and my other favorite, “Proof of
Life” – but then the Guthrie abduction happened and rendered that one unusable.
An editor at the publisher suggested “Tell Me Again,” and it grew on me. The
cover, designed by Abbey Gregory, was one of several that were proposed by the
publisher, and I liked it both for its abstraction, and the suggestion of a sky
at dusk in the desert, which is where one of the crucial scenes in the book
takes place.
5.
What
advice or words of wisdom do you have for fellow writers – other than run!?
Well, yes, run! But also, work hard not only at writing itself, but at being a better self-editor. I mean that as regards the process of writing, but also the overall goal of your writing. Stop and ask yourself why you’re writing what you’re writing. If it’s mainly a commercial venture in the hopes of making money, then the odds of that outcome are so long that any rational person would stop and go open a stationery store instead. If you’re doing it for the sheer love of writing, or because you have a personal stake in a story that you think needs or deserves to be told, or simply to entertain yourself and some friends and relatives and network pleasurably with like-minded people, then that’s a different (and better) scenario, though still daunting. The one thing you must never, never do is assume you’ll be the one-in-a-million exception and actually make money by publishing a book.
All of this presumes that you’re a solid, competent, well-read
writer and self-editor; many people are not, but have been led to believe by
what I call the wannabe author exploitation industry that they are or easily
could be. Read heavily in the genre you’re writing for and try to objectively
observe how your writing compares. If you don’t passionately believe in the
quality of your writing and the interest of your subject matter, it’s almost
certain no one else will.
The hard truth is that most of us are far more competent at
something other than writing, and most of us can’t put our lives on hold for a
couple of decades to better hone our writing craft. If you think you might need
it, don’t hesitate to hire a reputable editor or “book doctor” to evaluate your
manuscript and suggest revisions. Don’t rely on friends for this, as they too
easily compromise their objectivity, their frankness, or both.
6.
What
trends in the book world do you see – and where do you think the book
publishing industry is heading?
I see three broad trends affecting the “book world” in its
broadest sense: (1) the proliferation of publishing platforms; (2) the
explosion of what I call the wannabe author exploitation industry; and (3) the
onslaught of A.I. slop.
The last ten to 15 years have seen the slow erosion of
mainstream/legacy publishing and the rise of a wide array of alternatives, with
self-publishing and hybrid publishing in the forefront. The astonishing success
of a book like Theo of Golden, originally self-published and only later
picked up by a New York legacy publisher, attests to this. But the hard truth
is that we need fewer books of higher quality, not avenues of publishing for
everyone, all the time, because the latter has allowed a really serious
narrowing of “marketable” subject matters in fiction (dystopias, diasporas,
time travel, romanstasy), and the constriction of the populations of
authors, agents, editors and readers to – let’s face it – women.
Then there’s the growing market in wannabe author exploitation,
which is basically a genetically modified bastard child of the legacy
publishing industry that perceives that there is far more money to be made in
offering various kinds of coaching, editing, networking, and publicity services
to aspiring writers who are still laboring under the delusion, perpetuated by
this industry, that there is a viable path to traditional publishing for the
unknown writer if only they purchase the expertise or inside knowledge of a
third party. The latest evidence of this is that the Association of American
Literary Agents recently revised its ethics rules to allow agents (of which
there are too many with too little commission revenue) to take money from
clients in exchange for coaching, editing, etc. (inevitably giving rise to the
conflict of interest that writers may hire them in the hope of
representation).
Finally, there’s the quagmire of A.I., which has already trapped
several high-profile debut authors revealed to have used it to do their work
for them, and which is giving rise to a horrifying tide of computer-generated
slop that threatens to further degrade already degraded retail platforms and
crowd out actual human authorship and creativity. So not a happy prospect all
around. Like you said, run!
7.
Were
there experiences in your personal life or career that came in handy when
writing this book?
My mother’s sudden death from an E. coli outbreak over a decade
ago was my wake-up call to an awareness of my own mortality, and eventually
became the emotional foundation of my first novel, When We Were All Still
Alive, to which Tell Me Again is a standalone sequel. I’d already
written a short memoir, Befriending Ending, which related my experience
of her last days and what it taught me about death and dying. But that was an
exercise in facts and philosophy, and in this novel I wanted to get at the
emotional reality of familial connection, loss, redemption, and solace, and how
they interplay throughout life, in a way that my memoir hadn’t.
I had also reached a point in life where the subject of aging –
its many unfairnesses and its great consolations – became a focus, and I wanted
to try to depict how one man’s loves and friendships endure and change over the
span of a lifetime and are there to save him in his late middle age.
Tell Me Again elaborates all those themes, but with a strong, linear plot
that’s propulsive and page-turning rather than merely “literary.”
8.
How
would you describe your writing style? Which writers or books is your writing
similar to?
My style is a mix of lyrical and sardonic. I aspire to write with
wry humor, arresting metaphor, believable conversations, and attention to
social nuance. I prefer the first person POV. Authors whose style I aspire to
include Catherine Newman (Wreck, Sandwich), Ann Patchett (Whistler,
Tom Lake), Richard Ford (the Bascombe trilogy), Elizabeth Strout
(The
Things We Never Say), Eric Puchner (Dream State), and James Salter (Light
Years, All That Is).
9.
What
challenges did you overcome in the writing of this book?
By far the biggest challenge in writing the book was how to end it
– or, put differently, how to answer the two main burning questions of the
narrative: who is Sarah’s child? And who was the father? In various drafts I
had three different answers for the first question, and two different answers
for the second, with at least five different endings combining different
permutations of those answers. The ending I settled on was one that I felt best
balanced emotional payoff with believability. The other challenge was
keeping track of timelines, since the plot involves events that happened 50
years ago and various events and people’s ages needed to be synched with that
premise.
10. If people can buy or read only one book this
week or month, why should it be yours?
I think Tell Me Again provides the reader with a unique
combination of emotion, mystery, and surprise, all in a believable narrative
package that takes an international, transcontinental journey ‘way out of the
ordinary and back again several times, and lands readers in a more open, caring
and inquiring place than where they began. What more could you ask of a book?
About The Author: Keith McWalter is the award-winning author of
WHEN WE WERE ALL STILL ALIVE, a literary family saga reviewed by Kirkus as
“precise and fluid, weaving characters, settings, and timelines together in a
complex tapestry.” His speculative novel, LIFERS, was described by Harvard’s
Avi Loeb as “a fascinating read," and by Kirkus Reviews as "sharp and
perceptive SF". TELL ME AGAIN, coming this December, is his third novel. Keith’s
essays and opinion pieces have appeared in The New York Times and the San
Francisco Chronicle. He’s the author of the essay blog MORTAL COIL and the
travel blog SPOILED GUEST. A collection of his essays, THE PLASTIC BAG WILL NOT
INFLATE: Letters from a Bi-Coastal Father, won the Writer's Digest Award for
Nonfiction, and his family memoir, BEFRIENDING ENDING, was anthologized in the
literary magazine Feathered Flounder. Keith grew up in Mexico and Pennsylvania,
is a graduate of Denison University and Columbia Law School, and spent his
nonwriting career as a lawyer in New York and San Francisco. He and his wife
Courtney live in Granville, Ohio, and Sanibel, Florida. For more info, please
see: https://keithmcwalterwrites.com
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