Are You More -- Or Less -- Than Who You Think You Are?
Ego
is what drives the world, for better or worse.
It certainly drives the book publishing industry.
For
those who think they are soooo great and that everyone should love what they
write or have to say, there are whole industries that benefit from such people:
public relations, marketing, advertising, sales, the news media, and book
publishing – to name a few.
Ego
leads to action – good and bad. When the ego gets worked up it can lead to
wars, violence, and destruction. It can also lead to competitive entrepreneurs,
winning athletes, and prideful workers. If only a balance could be struck,
where one has a healthy enough dose of ego to propel them to achieve beyond
their abilities and resources, but not to the point of being unhealthy where
one is demanding, obsessed with unachievable levels of success, and downright
deluded.
For
me, authors with egos is good for business. They think they deserve to become
stars – and willingly shell out the bucks to chase lofty goals and best-seller
lists. And who should deny them a chance to pursue their dreams? Everyone
deserves a shot at winning the publishing lottery. But, when an author falls
short of where they think their career should be, the ego lashes out at others
and leaves the author feeling lost.
Ego
is also good for those in the book industry: the marketer who believes beyond
reality that he or she can build a great brand or sell a ton of books; the
publicist who sees every author as a potential media darling; the editor who
believes he or she can take any manuscript and turn it into a literary
masterpiece. Without someone believing they can do more than they are actually
capable of, we would end up with a world of underachievers or at best,
mediocrity.
A
healthy ego is needed in order for people to create, rise up the ladder, and to
accomplish things. How many insecure, depressed, or self-critical individuals
put themselves in a position to succeed? The key is to check the ego at times,
and to balance optimism, confidence, and an assertive personality with a dose
of reflection, caution, and honesty.
One’s
ego gives them a sense of pride and confidence, the will to try harder and do
better, and the inspiration to fight against the odds. But it feeds a
narcissism that could be costly. When one lacks the substance and resources to
support the monster the ego has created, a grave deficit is created.
The
egotistical author is sometimes driven by the wrong things. He or she:
·
Sees
almost all authors who become popular as undeserving, untalented writers
·
Mistakenly
thinks everyone is so successful and wonders why they are not
·
Focuses
too much on tearing down others and not making themselves better
·
Fails
to make an honest self-assessment that would help them change and improve
themselves
·
Underestimates
what it would take to truly succeed and believe if they just demand something
it will come to be
Authors,
of all people, know what it means to feel rejected and unwanted, but they have
a special ego gene that keeps many of them going and trying even in the face of
odds against success. I applaud those who have found the right balance of ego
but I have yet to find many who can remain both optimistic and realistic. It
seems that no matter how talented one is, the ego will be there, for better or
worse, to drive their careers.
Brian Feinblum’s views, opinions, and ideas expressed in this
blog are his alone and not that of his employer, the nation’s largest book
promoter, Media Connect (www.media-connect.com).
. You can follow him on Twitter @theprexpert and email him at brianfeinblum@gmail.com.
He feels more important when discussed in the third-person.
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