Sabina discusses her recently published book, A Fantastic Sex Life... And How to Get It!
1. How does one get a better sex life? For something that's supposed to be so enjoyable, we spend an awful lot of time worrying about sex. Are we doing it right? Are our skills up to scratch? Are we too young/old/fat/skinny/hairy/bald? My goal is to help people take a deep breath, relax and enjoy the ride. I truly believe that's the first and most important step towards achieving a fantastic sex life. While everyone enjoys different things in bed, there are certain skills and techniques you can learn that are pretty much guaranteed to please your partner until you figure out their little idiosyncrasies. I teach those in my book!
2. What type of person gets the most sex? There's not one category of person that consistently gets the most sex. I interviewed a whole bunch of people of all ages and from all walks of life for my book, and even I was surprised to hear what some of them had to say! A young, handsome single guy I spoke to told me he didn't have sex nearly as often as he'd like because he didn't want to have sex with just any girl - he wanted to have a real attraction and at least a possibility for it to go further. That was refreshing to hear! And then there's the mother-of-two (now three!) who has sex with her husband six times a week. Lucky lady! Whether or not you have a lot of sex is influenced by a number of factors, including your relationship status, age, priorities and sex drive.
3. Is having mediocre sex more often as important as having it less frequently but more intensely? No! We need to stop focusing on numbers. I don't believe there's a set number of times a week that people should be having sex - that's nonsense! It's totally normal for the frequency with which you have sex to go up and down depending on where you're at in your life. I used to think I'd always be the kind of girl who greeted my husband at the door in sexy lingerie, but we have a young baby now and we definitely don't have sex as often. But we know it's a phase and neither of us is unhappy about it, so we're not worried. I think telling people they should have sex a certain number of times a week is not only unrealistic, but it puts a lot of pressure on them and makes them feel inadequate. Quality is always more important than quantity when it comes to sex. As long as you feel satisfied with your sex life, who cares how often you're doing it?
4. How did you research your book? I spoke to dozens of people - men and women, young and old, single and married, with children and without - to find out what types of obstacles they had encountered in the past or were currently facing when it came to have a fulfilling sex life. I then researched solutions to the most common issues people face in order to help them overcome them and have the fantastic sex lives they want and deserve.
5. With the increased demand for erotica and romance books, spurred in part by 50 Shades of Grey, will we see an increase in the sex lives of book readers? I hope so! I think it's wonderful that erotica has hit the mainstream. Sex is nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed about - we all do it, so we should feel comfortable talking about it openly. I highly recommend reading erotica either on your own or as a couple - it can definitely fuel your fantasies and your sex drive!
6. Where do you see the book industry heading? Digital is the way of the future - people want to be able to read books on their mobile devices. I still haven't been able to let go of my good old paper books though! There's nothing quite like the feel and smell of a good book. I hope they stick around.
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