Sabina discusses her recently published book, A Fantastic Sex Life... And How
to Get It!
1. How does one get a better sex life? For something that's supposed to be so enjoyable, we spend an awful lot of time worrying about sex. Are we doing it right? Are our skills up to scratch? Are we too young/old/fat/skinny/hairy/bald? My goal is to help people take a deep breath, relax and enjoy the ride. I truly believe that's the first and most important step towards achieving a fantastic sex life. While everyone enjoys different things in bed, there are certain skills and techniques you can learn that are pretty much guaranteed to please your partner until you figure out their little idiosyncrasies. I teach those in my book!
2. What type of person gets the most sex? There's not one category of person that
consistently gets the most sex. I interviewed a whole bunch of people of all
ages and from all walks of life for my book, and even I was surprised to hear
what some of them had to say! A young, handsome single guy I spoke to told me
he didn't have sex nearly as often as he'd like because he didn't want to have
sex with just any girl - he wanted to have a real attraction and at least a
possibility for it to go further. That was refreshing to hear! And then there's
the mother-of-two (now three!) who has sex with her husband six times a week.
Lucky lady! Whether or not you have a lot of sex is influenced by a number of
factors, including your relationship status, age, priorities and sex drive.
3. Is having mediocre sex more often as
important as having it less frequently but more intensely? No! We need to stop focusing on numbers. I
don't believe there's a set number of times a week that people should be having
sex - that's nonsense! It's totally normal for the frequency with which you
have sex to go up and down depending on where you're at in your life. I used to
think I'd always be the kind of girl who greeted my husband at the door in sexy
lingerie, but we have a young baby now and we definitely don't have sex as
often. But we know it's a phase and neither of us is unhappy about it, so we're
not worried. I think telling people they should have sex a certain number of
times a week is not only unrealistic, but it puts a lot of pressure on them and
makes them feel inadequate. Quality is always more important than quantity when
it comes to sex. As long as you feel satisfied with your sex life, who cares
how often you're doing it?
4. How did you research your book? I spoke to dozens of people - men and women,
young and old, single and married, with children and without - to find out what
types of obstacles they had encountered in the past or were currently facing
when it came to have a fulfilling sex life. I then researched solutions to the
most common issues people face in order to help them overcome them and have the
fantastic sex lives they want and deserve.
5. With the increased demand for erotica and
romance books, spurred in part by 50
Shades of Grey, will we see an increase in the sex lives of book readers? I hope so! I think it's wonderful that erotica
has hit the mainstream. Sex is nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed about - we
all do it, so we should feel comfortable talking about it openly. I highly
recommend reading erotica either on your own or as a couple - it can definitely
fuel your fantasies and your sex drive!
6. Where do you see the book industry heading? Digital is the way of the future - people want
to be able to read books on their mobile devices. I still haven't been able to
let go of my good old paper books though! There's nothing quite like the feel
and smell of a good book. I hope they stick around.
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please see: www.andhowtogetit.com.
Brian Feinblum’s views, opinions, and ideas expressed in this
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at brianfeinblum@gmail.com. He feels more important when discussed in the
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