Interview With Dr. Jeanne Michele, Author of The Infidelity Cure

 

 

1. What inspired you to write this book?

Over the years, I’ve worked with many men and couples navigating the devastating aftermath of infidelity. The seeds for this work were planted during a period of time when quite a few men began showing up in my practice, grappling with the weight of their own affair—trying to understand how they went sideways and with a deep longing to understand how to help their partner recover from the heartbreak their behavior had caused. I sat with these men as they worked to process their grief, confusion, shame, and deep regret.

 

It became clear that there was a real need for a resource that spoke directly to men who had betrayed—a guide to help them take responsibility, understand what led to their choices, and learn how to support their partner’s healing while also engaging in their own. Sorting through the complexities of infidelity recovery alone can be overwhelming. My intention in creating The Infidelity Cure was to offer a compassionate, practical path for men to face themselves, uncover the roots of their behavior, rebuild trust, and begin the healing process—both individually and as a couple.

 

My secondary objective was to reduce the stigma around infidelity. People are quick to judge—often harshly. My goal was to help couples manage their recovery on their own terms—emotionally, relationally, and even socially—by offering tools to guide not only the healing process, but also the decisions around what, how, and with whom to share their journey.

 

2. What exactly is it about—and who is it written for?

The Infidelity Cure is a guide for men who’ve had an affair and want to rebuild their relationship—and for the women who love them. It’s also a resource for counselors, coaches, and therapists working with couples in affair recovery.

 

The book is divided into three main parts.

 

The first section speaks directly to men, helping them navigate the initial chaos after discovery—what I call the Emergency Do’s and Don’ts—while introducing what I refer to as Affair Vulnerability Factors (AVFs). These are the often-overlooked personal, relational, and situational patterns that set the stage for an affair.

 

The second part shifts to the partner’s experience. It helps men better understand what their partner is going through emotionally and offers guidance on how to support her. There’s also a dedicated chapter written for the betrayed partner herself, with tools to help her process heartbreak, set boundaries, and begin to clarify what she wants moving forward. In addition, I’ve included a brief chapter for those who have been the affair partner—because healing for everyone involved matters.

 

The final section focuses on relational recovery—and has more elements designed to help both people understand the deeper dynamics of relationships, improve communication, and grow together in ways that are truly transformational.

There is also a section in the final third of the book entitled – Exploring Masculinity: Embracing Your Power, Passion, and Purpose as a Man. This section is designed to help men take a look at the messages they received growing up as well as societal influences on manhood. It is designed to offer a deeper exploration into each man’s personal experience and identity formation.

 

3. What do you hope readers will get out of reading your book?

I hope readers walk away with a deeper understanding of themselves and what it truly takes to heal after betrayal. This book isn’t just about saving a relationship—it’s about personal growth, emotional maturity, and rebuilding with integrity. For betrayed partners, I hope it offers validation, insight, and support. I also see it as a preventative tool. Understanding what leads to infidelity and how to strengthen connection can help people avoid these painful patterns altogether. Whether you’re recovering, growing, or preparing for partnership, this book can offer guidance and hope.

 

4. How did you decide on your book’s title and cover design?

Honestly, it took some time. I wanted a title that conveyed hope and healing, and I also needed something with a strong, available domain name. Then—like many great ideas—it hit me at 3:00 a.m. One night, I woke up with the phrase The Infidelity Cure in my head. I grabbed my laptop, checked to see if the URL was available, and bought it on the spot. That was about four years ago.

 

The subtitle evolved as the book took shape. While my original concept was to speak solely to men, I realized as I was writing that I’d be remiss not to include support for the betrayed partner and the relationship itself. True healing after an affair requires both partners to engage. That’s why the book ultimately evolved into three main sections, as mentioned earlier: one that spoke directly to the man who strayed, one that helped provide greater understanding about and for the partner who was hurt, and one that focuses on relational recovery.

 

I wanted the subtitle to reflect that this book isn’t just about repairing a relationship—it’s about rebuilding your life, your identity, and your integrity. I also felt it was important to explore how relationships and affairs form and evolve, and to offer meaningful insights for anyone involved in the affair triangle.

 

For the cover, I wanted something clean, strong, and hopeful—a design that acknowledged the pain of betrayal while still pointing toward the possibility of rebuilding. It was essential that it feel inviting rather than shaming, especially for men who might otherwise avoid a book like this out of guilt or fear of judgment.

I worked with a wonderful book design company that brought the vision to life—inside and out. The goal was to make the entire reading experience both visually appealing and emotionally approachable.

 

5. Why is preventing infidelity so hard?

Infidelity isn’t just about physical betrayal—it’s usually rooted in unmet emotional needs, personal struggles, and unconscious patterns that have been developing over time. Many people aren’t fully aware of their own vulnerabilities until they’ve already crossed a line.

Preventing infidelity requires a high level of self-awareness, ongoing intentional communication, and a real commitment to staying connected even when life gets busy, stressful, or disconnected. Unfortunately, many couples don’t recognize the warning signs until after the damage is done. It’s not just about avoiding temptation—it’s about understanding the emotional and relational gaps that can leave someone open to it in the first place.

 

6. What advice or words of wisdom do you have for fellow writers—other than run!?

Writing a book—especially one that dives into personal and relational struggles—takes persistence, courage, and a lot of self-trust. My best advice? Trust the process. Some days the words will flow; other days you’ll second-guess everything. Keep going. Your message matters, and someone out there needs to hear it.  When you’re stuck, shift gears. Take a walk, read, do some research. Writing isn’t just about typing—it’s also about living, reflecting, and drawing from real experiences. Surround yourself with people who believe in your vision.

 

Writing may feel solitary, but you don’t have to do it alone. Find editors who get you. I worked with several throughout this project, and while you need someone who can help you shape and polish your work, you don’t need someone who tears it apart. The right editor will challenge you and champion you. And finally—give yourself grace. There will be moments you want to quit. Take breaks when needed. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Trust your voice, your brilliance, and the importance of your message. Writers have something to say. Let that truth ground you during the tough days.

 

7. Were there experiences in your personal life or career that came in handy when writing this book?

Absolutely. As I mentioned earlier, working with men who showed up with both humility and a fierce determination to understand themselves and repair their relationships was a huge source of inspiration. Their willingness to do the work helped ignite my passion for writing this book.

 

I also spent years in the corporate world, where I witnessed affairs unfolding in real time—and saw how leadership struggled to navigate the intricacies of workplace affairs. That experience offered me another lens on the complexity of infidelity.

And of course, my background as a relationship specialist—along with years of working closely with individuals and couples in affair recovery—was foundational. I’ve seen firsthand what helps rebuild trust and what hinders it. I’ve also been deeply influenced by the mentors, teachers, and personal relationships that have shaped my own growth. Those experiences tended to find their way into this book in one way or another.

 

8. What challenges did you overcome in the writing of this book?

The biggest challenge was simply finishing the book—and making tough decisions about what to include and what to leave out. There are so many important aspects of relational dynamics, and I wanted the book to be both comprehensive and accessible. It needed to offer enough depth for readers to see themselves in the stories, while also serving as a practical guide.

 

Another challenge was striking the right tone. Infidelity is a deeply charged topic, and I wanted the book to help men take responsibility without feeling shamed, while also making sure betrayed partners felt seen, supported, and validated. That balance between accountability and compassion was something I worked hard to maintain throughout the writing process. Ultimately, I wanted this to be a resource that offers insight, tools, and hope—something that helps destigmatize infidelity while showing that healing and growth are possible.

 

9. If people can buy or read one book this week or month, why should it be yours?

The Infidelity Cure offers a real, compassionate, and practical path forward—for men who are ready to take responsibility and for couples who want to heal and rebuild. Whether you’re navigating the aftermath of an affair or trying to understand how to prevent one, this book can help you better understand yourself, your relationship, and what it truly takes to rebuild trust.

It’s also a powerful resource for anyone looking to strengthen their connection, improve communication—especially when styles differ—and create a more conscious, authentic partnership. If you or someone you love is struggling, or if you're committed to growing into the best partner you can be, this book can guide you with clarity, heart, and purpose.

 

Author Bio: Dr. Jeanne Michele Dr. Jeanne Michele is a relationship specialist, educator, and author passionate about helping individuals and couples heal from the emotional fallout of infidelity and build deeper, more connected partnerships. With a background in psychology, decades of experience in the corporate world, and a thriving practice supporting men and couples, Dr. Jeanne brings a unique blend of insight, compassion, and practical wisdom to her work. Her book, The Infidelity Cure: How to Rebuild Your Life and Relationship After Your Affair, is a groundbreaking guide for men who want to take responsibility, better understand themselves, and support their partner’s healing—while also offering powerful tools and validation for the women who love them. The book is also a valuable resource for therapists, coaches, and helping professionals working with couples in recovery. She received her doctorate in psychology from Pacifica graduate institute and my Master's in Spiritual Psychology from the University of Santa Monica. For more info, please see:  www.TheInfidelityCure.com

 

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