THE SIZE OF EVERYTHING
1. What
inspired you to write a book about overcoming a dysfunctional childhood?
For the longest time,
I kept my past a secret… not because I was ashamed, but because I didn’t want
anyone’s pity. Eventually I got to a point in my life where I realized that
maybe sharing my own story could help others who were experiencing (or had
experienced) a similar situation. At the end of the day, we’re all just doing our
best to make sense of where we come from and where we are going. If I can help
even one person feel better about his or her circumstances, I’ll consider the
book a success.
2. What
lessons do you hope readers take from your book?
I really hope that
people walk away from The Size of
Everything with the knowledge that the only things that truly hold us back
are our own limiting beliefs. Sure, some people have a harder path than others,
and gruesome things happen in this world. Those are sad realities of life. But
if you can say, “You know what? I deserve better,” or “I’m not going to let
this thing that happened to me define me forever,” you can change your own
course for the better. I believe that in my core and I’m determined to help
others see it, too.
3. How
did you rise above your circumstances to become a successful bridal designer?
I guess I was lucky in
the sense that even during my darkest days, I was convinced that there was a
light at the end of the tunnel, and that things would and more importantly could get better. I realize that not
everyone was born with the optimism gene, which is why I hope my story can
provide some hope to those who weren’t.
4. Aren’t
you tired of serving the needy commands of bridezillas?
It’s funny, that word
isn’t even in my vocabulary! I’m a problem-solver by nature, so if a bride is
unhappy or “needy” as you say, my first thought is “okay, what is it going to
take to make this woman over-the-moon happy?” I love what I do and I derive
great joy in helping brides achieve their wedding-day dreams. I didn’t fall
into this industry accidentally; I was drawn to it like a moth to the
proverbial flame. Weddings are joyous, momentous, love-filled days. Being a
part of that is an honor and a privilege, and I don’t take that lightly.
5. Bridal
design is about creating an illusion to a day people fantasize will be magical,
but do brides ever take a realistic approach to a day that many may have to
repeat?
Hahahaha I love your
cynicism! I have yet to meet a bride who’s said anything remotely like, “Just
give me something decent… next time I’ll
get the fabulous gown and the stunning jewelry!” Even if there are some chilly
feet—which are absolutely normal, by the way--I think weddings are all about
hopeful optimism… even when they are second or third marriages! Everyone I meet
is looking for their own version of happily ever after, and I’m always right
there pulling for them.
6. Is
it a burden to be so beautiful — or is it a great asset?
Now you’re just making
me blush! Seriously, that’s an incredible compliment, and a question frankly I
don’t know how to answer. So I will say this: I believe happy women are the
most beautiful women, and that the two most flattering things anyone can wear are confidence and a
genuine, gigantic smile.
7.
What challenges did you have to deal with when
writing your book?
Obviously, revisiting some of the more painful parts of my past was difficult. There were times when I’d be writing notes for my co-author Jenna and I’d literally have to stop because I was sobbing. Jenna was amazing about holding my hand through it all—in fact, sometimes she’d call me sobbing after reading my notes and then I’d feel terrible for upsetting her! There were also times when I’d very matter-of-factly tell her about some awful thing that happened, and Jenna would be like, “You know that’s totally messed up, right?” It was hard but also incredibly eye-opening to see my own past through someone else’s lens. Writing this book was both terrifying and liberating, and I’m just so proud of the end result. I hope the world loves it as much as I do.
Obviously, revisiting some of the more painful parts of my past was difficult. There were times when I’d be writing notes for my co-author Jenna and I’d literally have to stop because I was sobbing. Jenna was amazing about holding my hand through it all—in fact, sometimes she’d call me sobbing after reading my notes and then I’d feel terrible for upsetting her! There were also times when I’d very matter-of-factly tell her about some awful thing that happened, and Jenna would be like, “You know that’s totally messed up, right?” It was hard but also incredibly eye-opening to see my own past through someone else’s lens. Writing this book was both terrifying and liberating, and I’m just so proud of the end result. I hope the world loves it as much as I do.
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