This is what keeps us going. It is the difference between success and failure, happiness and sadness, and even life and death.
Where do you find resilience?
It comes at that moment when you are tired of feeling scared, frustrated by setbacks and defeats, and exhausted by mental anguish or physical pain. You stare at the future and you feel less certain about it. Your dreams seem a little further away. You reflect back on the past, wondering if the best days are behind you, while also questioning just how good they really were. You hit a low point of pitying your plight and feeling insecure about everything. But then you get angry, even mad at life and your circumstances. You realize you are not ready to quit just yet.
Resilience comes when you focus on solutions, not problems. You move from complaining to acting. You don’t look at what you can’t do, what you don’t have, or what is missing from your life. You instead rally around your resources, strengths, and network of friends and family. You remind yourself of your abilities and desires. You gain back your faith and begin to run on energy. Hope replaces anxiety. Your brain begins to flow with positive ideas. Your muscles twitch, ready to be immersed in a productive activity.
Sometimes, resilience comes only when you sink low, falling into a blinding depression or when you actually reach a dead end in your pursuits. It comes when you feel least certain that things will improve. But you develop a sense of inner strength, if for no other reason, because you must. You simply cannot stare down the barrel of a gun and think that pulling the trigger will make anything better.
Resilience. Fortitude. Endurance. Confidence.
When you feel in the zone on any or all of these, you move from victim or loser or sickbay to a position of power, control, and empowerment.
It is all in your head. You are never as low as you think or feel you are; you are never as high and on top of things as your optimism makes you feel. But if you are going to plant a seed, let it be resilience. And may resilience not only enhance your life, but may it lead you to good fortunes as an author.
Brian Feinblum, the founder of this award-winning blog, can be reached at email@example.com He is available to help authors promote their story, sell their book, and grow their brand. He has 30 years of experience in successfully helping thousands of authors in all genres.
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Brian Feinblum should be followed on Twitter @theprexpert. This is copyrighted by BookMarketingBuzzBlog ©2022. Born and raised in Brooklyn, he now resides in Westchester with his wife, two kids, and Ferris, a black lab rescue dog. His writings are often featured in The Writer and IBPA’s The Independent. This blog, with over 4,000 posts over the past decade, was named one of the best book marketing blogs by BookBaby http://blog.bookbaby.com/2013/09/the-best-book-marketing-blogs and recognized by Feedspot in 2021 and 2018 as one of the top book marketing blogs. It was also named by WinningWriters.com as a "best resource.” For the past three decades, including 21 as the head of marketing for the nation’s largest book publicity firm, and two jobs at two independent presses, Brian has worked with many first-time, self-published, authors of all genres, right along with best-selling authors and celebrities such as: Dr. Ruth, Mark Victor Hansen, Joseph Finder, Katherine Spurway, Neil Rackham, Harvey Mackay, Ken Blanchard, Stephen Covey, Warren Adler, Cindy Adams, Susan RoAne, Jeff Foxworthy, Seth Godin, and Henry Winkler. He recently hosted a panel on book publicity for Book Expo America, and has spoken at ASJA, IBPA, Sarah Lawrence College, Nonfiction Writers Association, Cape Cod Writers Association, Willamette (Portland) Writers Association, and Connecticut Authors and Publishers Association. His letters-to-the-editor have been published in The Wall Street Journal, USA Today, New York Post, NY Daily News, Newsday, The Journal News (Westchester) and The Washington Post. He has been featured in The Sun Sentinel and Miami Herald. For more information, please consult: linkedin.com/in/brianfeinblum.
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