Guest post by Kathleen K.
I ran a phone sex
business for a year and that means I interviewed then trained operators, ran
the payroll, wrote sex-talk skills-building bulletins, and I worked over a
thousand hours on the live party line. There’s no debate it is the
cleanest form of direct sexual commerce. Phone sex is disembodied, you
aren’t YOU but there are real people involved. Tele-erotic performance is
sex radio in that you can be a personality, a familiar presence, for faceless
listeners. I’ve faithfully recreated the sense of abandon and camaraderie
in Sweet
Talkers (Words from the Mouth of a Pay-to-Say Girl).
Today, I want to explain how that experience shaped my choice to produce
erotic-sexotic books.
The Sweet Talkers verbal
exchanges were mostly cheerful, sometimes ridiculous, and very frank; there was
an exchange of pure fantasy because neither side was bound to facts. It
was in these moments with men that I grasped a truth about communicating about
arousal. I refused to limit myself to the ‘ohh, baby, ohh, baby’ litany
and, instead, rattled them with odd associations about notching crotches and getting
the glide. I feared I’d be turned off by this parade of
aural-pleasure seekers but it turns out they’re just all the guys I already
knew: the jokester, the flatterer, the braggart, the
nerd/jock/loner. I learned what they wanted. They wanted
contact. They wanted options. They wanted possibilities. They
weren’t (all) looking for cum dumpsters. I realized I didn’t have to
over-explain things; they were glad to go with the flow, grateful when I paced
them to a shuddering end. Young and old, these guys had stacks and stacks
of images in their heads but they needed connectors, they needed lines drawn
and circles formed; I gave them angles.
I always stake the
territory: phone sex is about masturbation. If you don’t admit
that, you miss the point. I not only talked to the callers, I heard them
interact with other operators and with each other. I asked for feedback
from the operators on what worked and what didn’t. I came away with a
refreshed sense of men’s self-containment. Strip away the sexy sounds and
masking murmurs and you learn it is their intent to spank that fu**ing
monkey!
I took
sex-positivity from the sweet talking conversational realm to the written
realm. I had tuned my ear to pithy sex talk, figured out how to
layer meaning between, around and beyond the lines. Most importantly, I
allowed dialog to develop from two sides of an agenda. I learned this:
men celebrate the simplest things.
They really are pleased by a perfect
throw, a higher jump, a copious come.
It’s my pleasure to
present witty, wicked writing of the sexplicit sort. My specialty is
setting scenes for you, inviting you to consider a kaleidoscope of situations.
About: KathleenK.xxx is an online catalog of sexotic
books for the rowdier reader. Named to
Kirkus Reviews’ Best of 2013 for her vignettes of voyeurism in The Lunarium, Kathleen K.
provides intelligent, inventive erotica in several forms: graphic poetry (ARCHING OVER), potcentric sexotic
fictional memoirs (Stoner) and an
emerging quintet devoted to Honey B., Sexual Consultant. This is not your mommy’s porn. Her nonfiction chronicle of running a
phone-sex business, Sweet Talkers, is
an online collectible now in its 3rd edition. All books available in print and Kindle at Amazon.com
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