What do you tell someone who says he or she no
longer wants to live?
Don’t say that you would find them a psychiatrist,
for likely that person already is in therapy and is possibly on meds.
Don’t just toss them a pep talk. You wouldn’t use
a pep talk to cure someone who needs open heart surgery, would you? A broken
soul requires more.
You likely assume they have a problem that needs
fixing, and if that can be corrected, all would be better. But then you
discover the problem is not fixable. Or, worse, that there is no one specific
problem to be fixed, that life itself simply is not providing a sufficiently
motivating reason to live.
When you stand back and look at life, you realize
that sometimes only one person or thing stands between you living and dying,
which is why a loss of money, job, health, a dream, or a person can devastate
us.
Life
is a matter of perspective. When we are younger,
we really feel like dying when someone breaks up with us. But if we can live
long enough to see that other people and things can make us happy, that we are
resilient, that life is precious, and that so much awaits us, we will choose to
live. We all need to live through enough things to see that life is worth
living.
As National Suicide Awareness Day (September 10)
is upon us, I am left thinking about people close to me who died by their own
hand. I also am thinking about the tens of thousands of people who each year
die because they actually thought death was their best option. And what of the
addicts who die each year “accidentally,” where a drug overdose is not
necessarily ruled a suicide but is a clear indicator of having given up?
The overwhelming majority of society will never
commit suicide, but I wonder how many of us are just one event, person, or bad
day away from crossing the line. Too many already have.
Is there a book that can save someone’s life — or
at least get them to have hope and see things differently?
I found myself asking this question when someone
in my world said life was no longer worth living.
I thought about all of the books ever written that
inspire, motivate, and provide healing. Surely there must be a book that can
help this dire situation.
Of course, you immediately get that person
psychiatric help and meds, but that is not enough in the long-term. They need a
mantra to live by. They need to have hope and to have a genuine reason to live.
They need to desire living, and not just want to avoid dying.
But each of us needs to know what we want and to
strive to go after it. Often, the pursuit is a reason to live.
I thought about the books that I have read over
the years. It is a blur to reflect back on the tens of millions of words that
one has consumed, but the ones that come to mind are As A Man Thinketh,
which says we are what we think. The other is by a Holocaust survivor who found
a will to live when all that he had was taken from him, Man’s Search For
Meaning.
Whether you are on the ledge or living the good
life, I highly recommend these two books.
Book-lovers enjoy many books and gain insights to
life in reading all types of books, but when life is on the line, which books
do you turn to? i want to know. One’s life may depend on your answer.
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