People are drawn to, and persuaded by, people who smile, make them laugh, and show they can be entertaining. Can you find a way to make that kind of impression upon other people?
Speakers Hall of Fame member and best-selling
sales book author Jeffrey Gitomer says in one of his books: “Whatever you say
after you say something funny will be heard and remembered 10 times more than
to drone on and “think” or “expect” that others hear them — much less are
listening. In short, laughter leads to listening and creates the highest
listening environment.”
He is right. People want to laugh. They need to
feel good. If you can help them do that, you increase your chances of winning
them over. You have disarmed them. Instead of them looking for a hole in what
you have to offer, they can’t wait to hear another joke or witty insight.
* Telling animated stories.
* Sharing funny moments.
* Encouraging the positive.
* Indicating values alignment.
* Sharing good intentions.
* Supporting their needs.
Yes, there is a way to win people over. And humor
plays a key role in this.
You have to be careful with the type of humor that
you use. Some people don’t get sarcasm but they laugh at self-deprecating
humor. For some, jokes can’t be made on certain topics or about specific
people. Avoid jokes that could be sensitive— race, religion, sex, or politics.
Look to share comments on everyday relatable things. No fussin’ with cussin’.
If you are not sure about saying something, don’t. Err on the side of caution.
“Study humor to a point until you become familiar
enough with it to use it,” writes Gitomer in Go Live! “Tell a story that makes
the other person smile and you will relax them enough to like you, relate to
you, engage with you, and ultimately buy from you.”
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About Brian Feinblum
Brian Feinblum should be followed on Twitter
@theprexpert. This is copyrighted by BookMarketingBuzzBlog ©2023. Born and
raised in Brooklyn, he now resides in Westchester with his wife, two kids, and
Ferris, a black lab rescue dog. His writings are often featured in The Writer
and IBPA’s The Independent. This
award-winning blog has generated over 3.3 million pageviews. With 4,400+ posts
over the past dozen years, it was named one of the best book marketing blogs by
BookBaby http://blog.bookbaby.com/2013/09/the-best-book-marketing-blogs and recognized by Feedspot in 2021 and 2018
as one of the top book marketing blogs. It was also named by www.WinningWriters.com
as a "best resource.” For the past three decades, including 21 years as
the head of marketing for the nation’s largest book publicity firm, and two
jobs at two independent presses, Brian has worked with many first-time,
self-published, authors of all genres, right along with best-selling authors
and celebrities such as: Dr. Ruth, Mark Victor Hansen, Joseph Finder, Katherine
Spurway, Neil Rackham, Harvey Mackay, Ken Blanchard, Stephen Covey, Warren
Adler, Cindy Adams, Todd Duncan, Susan RoAne, John C. Maxwell, Jeff Foxworthy,
Seth Godin, and Henry Winkler. He recently hosted a panel on book publicity for
Book Expo America, and has spoken at ASJA, Independent Book Publishers
Association Sarah Lawrence College, Nonfiction Writers Association, Cape Cod
Writers Association, Willamette (Portland) Writers Association, APEX, and
Connecticut Authors and Publishers Association. His letters-to-the-editor have
been published in The Wall Street Journal, USA Today, New York Post, NY
Daily News, Newsday, The Journal News (Westchester) and The Washington
Post. He has been featured in The Sun Sentinel and Miami Herald.
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